One of the biggest challenges any of us can face is simply to be believed. We need to be believable for our significant others, our friends, our bosses, our coworkers, and our clients. As a matter of fact, the scenarios that would require the need to be believed are almost endless.
The repercussions of not being able to convince others that you are to be believed can derail not just a career, but also a life. The struggle can be mighty, but one of the most effective solutions is right there in front of us. As a matter of fact, this particular solution could not be easier… or at times, more elusive. You see, the easiest way to be believable is to tell the truth.
To be believable, you must tell the truth. Take a moment, step back, and think about what you just read. Again, the easiest way to be believable is to tell the truth. After all, the only person who knows if you are, or are not, telling the truth… is you.
If you don’t truly believe in what you are saying, it’s not the words that will betray you; it’s the tune. If you aren’t speaking the truth, it would be as if you were playing a musical instrument and the notes would be slightly flat. When you aren’t speaking the truth, the facial expressions accompanying those words would be slightly forced. The rest of your nonverbal cues would be slightly out of rhythm. The harder you work to unnaturally adjust these telltale signs of a lack of believability, that more obvious your disingenuous delivery becomes.
This holds true when you are looking for someone to believe in an idea, a product, or even in you as a person. If you believe it, your tune will support it. Even those overrated words we cling to will be more effortlessly available. Mark Twain once said: “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”
That means if you feel the company, product or idea you represent isn’t what it should be, focus your time and energy towards a solution until it is. If you feel you aren’t what you should be, focus your time and energy towards a solution until you are. I don’t make these statements lightly and understand finding a “solution” can be complex. However, sometimes half the battle is leaving the security of familiarity, pursuing change, and seeking a solution that is often well overdue. Once you do, the truth will be on your side, and your credibility will be right there with it.
It isn’t nearly as difficult to ask someone to believe you when you believe you.
You don’t have to overthink this, or overact, or even act at all. For that brief instant, you simply have to tell the truth, and you will easily connect the words with the tune. In doing so, you’ll move one step closer to conveying the authentic sound you are seeking to create. Those you are communicating with won’t just hear your words; they’ll feel them too.
Amen, Rob. Truth will make you a free person. Truth is light. Truth trumps ignorance. Telling yourself the truth first of all breaks you out of having to measure yourself by others’ yardsticks. It unchains you from the tyranny of “toddlelogic”–destructive beliefs acquired when you were table-top high or downloaded into your thought files when you were too young to examine them critically. When you know who you are for real, nobody can step to you with “fake revelations” about you.
Thanks! And thanks for sharing your great posts every week!
Great piece! Tell the truth by simply stating the fact(s).
There is no doubt in my mind that honesty is the best policy. In today’s climate, it seems more important. The biggest problem in telling the truth is that the truth is different for different folks. There are people that I know are not telling the truth because what they believe to be true just isn’t, but each of us has our own truths. Therefore what you say is of greater importance because if you feel honestly that you are telling the truth then others can believe you and still disagree with you. But then you have a basis for real discussion. At work I can often tell when someone is not telling the truth and knows that they aren’t. In those cases, it becomes more difficult to believe anything they tell me, even if they are right and truthful in other cases. Being true to yourself is the first step. Thanks for sharing.
Rob Jolles, thanks so much for the post.Really thank you! Great.